Introduction

In the sea of media and entertainment about dating and relationships in the US, the majority is aimed at straight people. I don’t necessarily think any of it directly translates into the gay community. I’m about to share many of my experiences, opinions, successes, hopes, failures, embarrassments and frustrations about dating gay in NYC and hopefully provide some new insight into the gay dating world.

But first…to better understand my comments you need some basic information about ME.

ME:
They say that it takes 10 years in NYC to call yourself a New Yorker; I’m still 8 years away from that landmark.
I was still closeted when I moved here but unlike many, I was not flocking to NYC as a gay safe haven. Many of the “small towners” from my previous life, think the free spirited orgiastic life of NY turned me gay. I know that there is no debate on what came first, the Chicken (gay) or the Egg (NYC).
Let me give you my “Stats” as their called on many gay sites… Allow me to leave out the more raunchy details many gay sites tend to require. I’m a 26 year old professional: the work hard – play hard type. I’m 6’2” tall, some…hell I’m not modest, many would describe me as tall dark and handsome. Overall, and most importantly for this little experiment of mine, I’m very social and easy to get along with. I’m good on dates and if a date goes bad it’s not because I can’t carry a conversation.

WHY I'M DOING THIS:
My story isn’t different from most people: I haven’t dated a ton, but for the amount that I have I’ve experienced a lot. I’ve been heartbroken and I’ve broken some hearts. My one difference, my “hook”, if you will, is….drum roll please….I’m normally not attracted to the typical athletic, primped, boy next door looking gay guys. In fact my last conquest was a chubby Asian man.
I recently joined a non gay specific dating site. It’s a refreshing change of pace from the flat-out gay porn sites disguised as networking or dating destinations. On this site you get a real Bio and a real (in most cases) picture…not deciding which picture of a penis you’d like to “date”. Don’t even get me started on fuckrace.com…

My GOAL is to go on as many dates as possible and, of course, find someone I can create something with. I hope that dating people who are not my usual type will eventually make me less picky and open more doors. I also think I’ll have some insightful, horrifying and funny things happened to me…why not share!

My PLEDGE is to always be truthful. I’m not on here to make up some fantasy stories about relationships and dating. What you’ll get will be true experiences and honest opinions.
Enjoy.